Friday, 23 October 2009

Be Absolute For Death; Either Death or Life Shall Thereby Be The Sweeter.

Questions I've been asked, and answers; a foray into the first person, rife with the landmines of presence vs. presents.

I was asked if I felt I possessed personal power, and if I, for example, blessed an airplane as I boarded. No, if I go on an airplane I don't bless it or anything. I don't know about that kind of stuff, messing with energy, etc. With my luck, I'd get the blessing just a li-i-i-tle bit wrong and the whole thing would go down in flames!

I was asked: Do we teach what we need to learn? Well, if you're just talking about day-to-day life unfolding, it seems to me that there are a lot of mirrors and clues about lessons to be learned in every person we meet, or reaction/response we have. I teach my kids "pick up your disgusting dirty socks" so I better be darn sure I pick up my own dirty socks. The dirty socks on the floor offend me; what does that say about me? It says that I better yell a bit more loudly and persistently at the kids - and husband for that matter - until I have bullied and nagged them into picking up their horrible, crusty socks.

I was asked: Do I attempt to control anything in my life? That last answer takes care of that question: I attempt to control my family's behaviour with floors, and socks.

The personal power I possess is minimal. Although I try to use my power over the family's sock habits, through manipulation and aggression, they largely ignore me. Maybe I should chant some stuff and use some hoo-do, or cast a circle and call up the Goddess and the Great Horned God, but even a whole platoon of elemental spirits could easily be ignored by a child on level 10 of Fallout 3.

I don't really goal-set. Years ago I read "Creative Visualisation" by Shakti Gawain, but it was a bust. It was too much like telling the Universe what I thought was good for me. Now it seems that goals come up, writing the blog for instance, or writing a book which I've just done, but the difference seems to be I'm not agonising over them or trying to find my "true purpose" or needing them to validate or define me. I am defined, and undefined. It seems much more fluid and easier now. The less I'm involved - meaning ego-fears or concerns - the better it goes, whatever it is. Nonduality just means that ego-stuff comes up, due to long conditioning of the mind/body thingy, but doesn't really stick around; there's not much for it to hook onto. It also isn't taken very seriously, by, most definitely, no one.

I was asked: How do I raise my children? Long ago (or so it seems) my husband and I started socialising them along the lines of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". So if they do something "wrong" within this framework, a belief system like any other, I just remind them about being nice to others, and remembering that we're all worthy, and things along those lines. It seems to cover most occurrences so far. I remind them of how marvelous they are a lot, say "I love you" constantly and hug them to the point of them saying "get off me Mum!". That encapsulates my child rearing philosophy. I guess I lead by example: my observable behaviour reflects being very patient with myself, and not too hard on my own humanity, and with every apparent other person I encounter, which seems incredibly easy "these days". Mostly, I muddle along as best I can like 99.9% of humanity.

About choice - there is the appearance of choice in day-to-day life, of course, but life is illusory, it's just energy arranged very interestingly, and anything chosen is the same thing - oneness - in yet another fascinating guise.

I don't think there's destiny, because destiny implies time - future - and there is no time, just this, this now, this ever changing now. There can be an unfolding story that appears to validate the idea of destiny, but that yet again is just yet another beautiful and fascinating expression of oneness.

Ambitions come up, just like goals, and are intrinsically fulfilling - that seems the closest way to put it.

Instinct and intuition seem to be more part of the story these days. My poor, beleaguered mind has been let off the hook, by itself, by nothing.

All words fall together to reflect some system of belief, and are always concepts. The real challenge with describing direct, unfettered presence is that it's not a concept, or a feeling, or a state. It encompasses all belief systems, and negates them, and validates them, and is them all, and is none of them. Very tricky.

Oneness is always everything, always already the case even if your mind is in the throes of frantic seeking. Whatever you're doing is the perfect expression, the perfect invitation, as Tony Parsons puts it. There is no utopia but this. There will always be those who work for peace, love and a better world, and those who oppose all that, due probably to separation and fear. It seems it is possible to fall in love with it all. Who falls in love? Love falls in love with itself, I guess.

If I have a message - and I don't - it would be that you, whomever you think you are, however you seem to perceive reality, are beautiful, whole, complete and perfect just as you are. Your ego is beautiful, and the awareness that is everything is beautiful, and you are that awareness, looking lovingly at itself. Reality may be a fragile illusion, but it is a gorgeous, complex, fascinating, engrossing, fulfilling, and fantastic illusion to be enjoyed, and reviled, and felt, and touched, and seen and heard and apprehended by its own very self, and you are that.

Writing this was fun. However, my husband kept coming in and interrupting me. Annoyance arises in awareness! But also tolerance, patience and husband-handling skills. Whatever I'm doing, it is just what must be done. And I'm not doing a thing. What freedom.

26 comments:

No Plane Zen said...

Please don't tell me there is no Goddess and no Great Horned God.

No One In Particular said...

In the appearance - and especially in the appearance of the psyche - there are a plethora, a surfeit, a wealth, and plain too many gods and goddesses!

lune said...

Woah that WAS beautiful, beautiful.

Too much emphasis nowadays is put on the quality of the thoughts and decisions we make; they must be good thoughts at all costs or else our lives will go down in flames!!!

We think we are suffering when life goes the wrong way. There is no wrong way.

What a pleasure to read this post was, there is such a delicate wonder in reading/writing an 'I' on the page.

x

No Plane Zen said...

Ah! Very nice..."a plethora, a surfeit, a wealth...

and plain too many...!

Ha ha ha, that is so true!

Julian said...

I never seem to be able to stop giving advice. I can't stop seeing the beauty in others then trying to help them see it themselves. I am not sure that it has ever done much good and it may have made them a lot more confused. For after all what do we really know about what people need at any given time? Often we are just reinforcing the belief in a false self. But there we are... the words keep arising. No self control. I have been trying to shut up for years and years - just don't seem to be able to manage it. Quite an affliction actually.

Andrew said...

I really enjoyed reading this post. Looking forward to reading your book. How will you publish it?

No One In Particular said...

Hi Andrew, I was asked by a publisher if a book was in the works, then contacted some others, and finally got in touch with an agent. Unbelievable, that anyone wants to read what is written!

No One In Particular said...

Hey No Plane, glad amusement comes up. And Julian, you raise a salient point. If you can't shut up, that's just what's happening as well! And Lune, high praise coming from you. Deeply honoured.

msayers said...

Wha..., you wrote a BOOK?! Oh no! Oh nooooooo! What's it about? Will it be on Nonduality.com and be reviewed by Gilbert, Tony, Jeff, Randall, Charlie, and the others? Oh no....

How 'bout that? A famous author watched my tweets about the birth of my son all the way across the pond. I'm soooo honored.

OK, so congratulations! I'm proud.

Mike

No One In Particular said...

Hi Mike, it's more stories than "you are all you see" "you are that" or how to self-inquire or what have you. Three intertwined stories. Not the usual nonduality thing at all. Thanks for the support! Now get back to Kelly and that baby!

msayers said...

Alright, alright... just let me know when it comes out!

No One In Particular said...

Will do Mike.

Svante Odmark said...

Love ya! Svante

No One In Particular said...

Right back atcha Svante.

Lune said...

This 'I' wants more 'I's from you!

And The Book, I want a signed copy.

Not that I am setting a precedent or anything ;)

I don't ask much from life, honestly x

Fernando Rozas said...

Hi Suzanne. Beautiful Blog. Congratulations... to no one in particular.
This is It, even the expectations about 'kensho'.
Suzanne, you are a goddess. I love you.
Fernando

No One In Particular said...

Hi Lune, it's yours. And Fernando, thanks, if I'm a goddess, you're a god, as are we all - why not?.

Andrew said...

What is the title of the book? How about: "Shakespeare Reincarnates as Enlightened Housewife" Or "Suburban Blogger sees that the Ego has no clothes" Or "Soccer Mum Transcends the Game."

No One In Particular said...

Hi Andrew, thanks for visiting. Great title ideas! How about "Ironically, No One Irons, But Somehow the Pile Seems Left For 'Me'"?

Andrew said...

"Ironing without I" "Washing Without Me."

I think we could go on all day with these titles. I hope you have a good one in mind.

No One In Particular said...

Nothing, being something...along those lines. And yes, we could!

Anonymous said...

Phew, bit of fawning over the pretty lady going on here. Let the fawning be part of the harmony, and anyway, there is no choice.

Christine said...

I don't really goal-set either. I used to be so into the law of attraction, which was fantastic for me at the time (and I still see it working!), and I also bought the book Creative Visualization but couldn't get into it. Once I made the decision to make inner peace my most important goal this past summer, nothing else mattered anymore. Best decision EVER. :)

No One In Particular said...

Hey Christine, no goals, no one who has goals...so whatever goals seem to be presented, are fantastic in ways the little self might block. Or something like that! Peace of mind is not even the goal; turmoil of the mind might be just as edifying...for no one.

And hey Anonymous, yes, not sure how to respond to all that...it's the message, not the messenger, and the funny thing is there is no message or messenger!

Anonymous said...

Then again, who would not fawn over doe eyes. Let it be!
I'm getting that awareness again, ahh.

No One In Particular said...

I think a bit of naughtiness is arising for you, Anonymous.